Nothing is easy. Everything is an uncertainty. Make better choices.
What makes me unique?
Nothing. Nothing makes you unique. You’re just like everyone else would be if they had been dealt the exact same hand. That’s not a bad thing. It just makes you lucky! Or unlucky, depending on how you look at it. Ask yourself, ‘What makes me good?”.
What did I do wrong?
Stop that. You didn’t do anything wrong – you made poor choices. Almost everything is a choice. Next time, choose better choices.
How do I become [insert adjective here]?
Oh, so you don’t like what you’ve got going on right now? Guess what? Unless you’re already on your way to being thinner, or having more money, or living in Tokyo, you are WASTING YOUR OWN TIME. This right here – this moment – is enough. Your body, your mind, your significant other, your home. All of it really is enough. If it isn’t enough, you’d already be on your way to something else.
Do I even know what I’m doing?
Well, you can certainly ask yourself that question, but the answer will almost ALWAYS be “No.”. No one knows exactly what they’re doing. Up until Christopher Columbus came along, Europeans thought the earth was flat. Sneezes used to be symptomatic of possession by the devil. Everything in this life is an uncertainty. You might have done it 50 times before or never once, but you can’t predict the future! Roll with it!
Why don’t they like me?
Really? You’re worried about someone liking you? Really? Worry about if they respect you. Someone liking you isn’t going to mean anything. ‘Like’ goes away. Earn their respect, and if you can’t do that, you probably don’t need them around.
Why is this so hard?
Nothing is easy. It is exactly the level of difficulty it is meant to be. Even tools that make life ‘easy’ require training and experience. Maybe next time, evaluate the time and effort it will take before choosing that path.
Originally posted December 9, 2016: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/do-i-even-know-what-im-doing-5-other-questions-stop-asking-zander